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Is Depicting Ideal Relationships an Act of Resignation to Reality?

The question 'Is depicting ideal relationships an act of resignation to reality?' lies at the core of fujoshi culture. When we depict 'perfect pairings' or 'precious relationships' in BL or fanfiction, are we escaping the imperfections and disappointments of reality? Or is the act of depicting ideals itself an expression of hope and values for living better in reality? This question illuminates both emotional processing through fiction and how we face reality. When we give form to the wish 'I want it to be like this' in creation or reading, is it resignation—or something else? It is a theme that gently explores that boundary.

01 Escapism Theory

The view that depicting ideal relationships is an act of escaping dissatisfaction with real romance and human relationships into a fictional world. The more ideals are depicted, the more one's adaptability to reality declines.

02 Hope Expression Theory

The view that depicting ideals is not resignation but clarifying the wish 'I want it to be like this,' giving power to gradually change reality. Fiction contributes to the formation of values.

03 Emotional Processing Theory

The view that depicting or loving ideal relationships is an act of processing and sublimating loneliness and undigested emotions felt in daily life in a safe space. It is seen not as resignation but as a form of self-care.

  1. When you thought 'this relationship is ideal' in a favorite work, how did it feel compared to real romance or friendship?

  2. When depicting or imagining ideal relationships, does a feeling of 'maybe it's impossible in reality…' sometimes arise somewhere in your heart?

  3. Do you sometimes feel that fictional ideals make your view of real human relationships stricter?

  4. Have you ever had the experience of the act of depicting ideals encouraging or cheering you up?

  5. Where do you think the boundary between 'resignation' and 'hope' lies? Is depicting ideals closer to which one?

Escapism vsExpression of Hope
Is depicting ideals escapism from reality, or an expression of hope to change reality? Both aspects may exist simultaneously.
Pressure of Ideals vsHealing
Are you tormenting yourself by seeking perfect relationships, or is your heart being healed by touching those ideals? Evaluation changes depending on the perspective.
Talk note

This theme is a space to carefully handle the feelings that waver between ideal and reality without denying them. Whether 'resignation' or 'hope,' let's respect both as your important emotions.

Ideal Relationship
A pure, equal bond depicted in fiction that deeply shares pain and joy. Often considered to possess a 'perfection' difficult to obtain in reality.
Resignation
Accepting the imperfections of reality and giving up on pursuing ideals. The question is whether immersion in fiction strengthens this attitude.
Projection
Overlaying one's unrealized wishes and emotions onto fictional characters or relationships. Can also serve as a means of self-understanding.
Fanfiction / Secondary Creation
The act of freely depicting ideal relationships based on original works. A creative practice for expressing one's own values.
Ice breaker

Tell me about a work or scene where you recently thought 'this relationship is ideal.' Why did you feel that way? As detailed as possible.

Deep dive

When drawn to that ideal relationship, what part of reality do you think you are 'resigning to' or 'wanting to protect'?

Bridge

If that ideal relationship were realized even a little in reality with friends or a partner, how do you think you would feel?

  • How does fanfiction depicting ideal relationships influence one's views on real romance?
  • How do the criteria for 'precious' relationships change depending on era and culture?
  • What does the 'emptiness' when one cannot depict ideals mean?
  • Can one invest emotions in ideal relationships generated by AI?